Two weeks ago, 14-year-old Jamey Rodemeyer killed himself in Buffalo, N.Y. after months of torment and bullying. And yet, even after his suicide, Rodemeyer is still being bullied: In an exclusive interview with Ann Curry, Rodemeyer's parents reported that his sister, who attended a dance the week following Jamey's funeral, witnessed something awful when a song by Lady Gaga, Jamey's favorite artist, began to play.

"She was having a great time, and all of a sudden a Lady Gaga song came on, and they all started chanting for Jamey, all of his friends,'' Rodemeyer's mother, Tracy, told Curry."Then the bullies that put him into this situation started chanting, ‘You're better off dead!' and ‘We're glad you're dead!' and things like that."

These are high school students.

It's one thing for bullying to take place in middle and elementary school. At those ages, you can argue that kids don't yet really know the difference between right and wrong (which isn't true, by the way, but let a psychologist argue that point, not a pop culture article). But in high school, there is no excuse for bullying of this extent to be accepted.

But who do we punish? The kids who do the bullying? The teachers and administrators who fail to respond? The parents who don't teach their children to be kind—or worse, who teach their children to hate?

Celebrities are crying out against bullying. When Rodemeyer dedicated his last tweet and Tumblr post to Lady Gaga, Lady Gaga took to the Web to protest the daily horror that kids like Rodemeyer see every day. "Bullying must become illegal," she said on Twitter. "It is a hate crime."

There's no doubt that in Rodemeyer's case, the bullying was motivated by hate over Rodemeyer's gay identity. But where do we draw the line between "hate crime," "teasing" and "bullying"? I was a dorky Jewish kid in elementary school. I got made fun of, but so did everyone else. No one is exempt from being teased about something, but not everyone is bullied.

I know that this isn't my usual light-hearted column, and hopefully next week someone from Glee will do something ridiculous and put us back on track, but as someone with the opportunity to reach people, I urge my readers: If you know someone who is being bullied—or someone who bullies—reach out to them. Offer your support; you might save a life.

National Coming Out Day is just around the corner, on October 11th. Are you prepared to be an ally?