I hate to break it to you, Hollywood parents, but apparently your kids aren't yours-they're everyone's.On March 4, Life & Style magazine published an article criticizing Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie for their parenting of daughter Shiloh, 3, after an eyewitness reported seeing the tot with a short, boyish haircut and dressed in boys' clothes. "It's a drastic change," says the eyewitness. "The last time we'd seen her, her hair was longer and blonder, and she was more girlie. We were surprised Angelina dressed her so much like a little boy."

The article went on to interview several top stylists-stylists, child-rearing experts, what's the difference?-about Brangelina's parenting decisions. "Shiloh is pushing the boundaries of a tomboy look and crossing over to cross-dresser territory," said Alana Kelen, a fashion stylist at VH1. Glenn Stanton of Focus on the Family told Life & Style, "Little girls have never been women before. They need help, they need guidance of what that looks like. It's important to teach our children that gender distinction is very healthy."

People, she's three. Sometimes three-year-olds like to play in clothing that doesn't quite fit their gender role. According to Brad, this is just the latest of Shiloh's boyish behavior. "We've got to call her John," he told Oprah Winfrey. He explained that he would start to ask, "Shi, do you want-" and she would interrupt with, "John. I'm John." Brad continued, "I'll say, 'John, would you like some orange juice?' And she goes, 'No!'"

Life & Style's article seems to have stirred up even more controversy than Shiloh's new 'do. "The length of Shiloh's hair or the clothes she wears are really matters for her and her parents to decide; this is a family that is known for their fashion," Justin Tanis of the National Center for Transgender Equality told gay and lesbian news magazine The Advocate. "Our society needs healthy, well-rounded children whose interests and tastes are as diverse as the children themselves and are not limited by outdated stereotypes of gender."

So what do you think, Brandeis? Is Shiloh's-sorry, John's-personality affecting her development? Should Brad and Angie break out the frilly dresses and the patent-leather Mary Janes? Or should gossip mags just butt out of parenting altogether?